• Well-being

    Boundaries and how to set them

      Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept. – Anna Taylor   There’s something which I find happens quite often to me. I’m happily living and loving life when a person asks a favour, wants me to be responsible for something, go some place, do some thing, delegate a task they don’t want to do to me. This is life, right? We should expect this is going to happen. It’s how we interact. The issue comes only when it’s something I DON’T…

  • Well-being

    Shame and how to deal with it

      Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. – Brené Brown   The S-word has been consistently on my mind lately, not because I’ve been researching it for a blog post, but because it’s in my life nearly every day and I’m not the only one. Shame is universal and every one of us experiences it (you know, unless you’re a sociopath…) Each of us has a story of some kind from any area of our lives. For me it’s imagining others must be looking down at me for having debt, that people think I’m a…

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    Playlist

    Playlist: Banks

    I first came across the music of Banks only few months ago as I trawled Spotify for inspiration, something new to listen to and connect with. Releasing her first song on Soundcloud back in 2013, Banks exposed herself to creative feedback for the first time and subsequently opened her raw and personal songwriting to a growing fan base. Allowing personal creativity to travel freely into the world for judgement is increasingly difficult when you’re this honest in songwriting. Her lyrics are almost a page torn from a diary and set to a back beat. Her back catalogue, although consisting of only two albums, Goddess and the more recent The Altar,…

  • Adventures

    Places to Explore

    **This post was originally written in July 2015 before I came up with THE VAN PLAN. It still stands though, I do want to travel abroad, but there’s so much to see in the UK first. Note that Cornwall made it on to this list!** Lately, I’ve been hankering after new places and new people. Having little cash to spare right now, Pinterest has become my digital travel guide and I’m finding tons of cities and countries I’m determined I’ll spend time in the future. 1. Barcelona – One poorly planned (when I say poorly planned, I mean we spent most of it drinking…) city break away with 16 members…

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    Adventures,  The Van Plan

    Traveling the UK in a Camper-Van: A Goal

    I have a plan…a van plan (and yes, it involves a camper-van). I want to travel and explore the UK in a camper-van, creating a part nomadic lifestyle along the way while still having a base to come home to. Many folks go off and travel the world to find themselves but while it would be nice to do that, right now it’s not financially viable for me and I also have a particularly naughty cat to consider. For me, it’s not a necessity to travel for months on end. To begin with perhaps I’ll disappear for a weekend, maybe a week or two here and there, and when I’m…

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    Well-being

    Going Grey

    I’ve always said that when my hair started to go grey I’d simply let it go and embrace it. When I found my first white (not even grey!) hair a few years ago at around 26 or 27 years old, I found it more than a bit startling. I remember staring at it in the mirror before yanking it out of my head and discarding it as if that would stop the onset of the inevitable and went on about my strangely misguided twenties. Gradually, over the next year, another appeared and then another, all around the same area of my head and in pointless effort I deliberately moved my…

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    Books

    Reading: Wild by Cheryl Strayed

    It has taken me a good few months to finish Wild and that’s not to say that it’s a bad read, because it’s far from it; it’s a fantastic book. When I started it back at the beginning of the year I knew I would struggle with it. Right from the moment I read the blurb on the back which told me that Cheryl had lost her mother to cancer very rapidly and everything had fallen apart from there, I knew. This would be tough to get through because I’m still dealing with the same issue, 10 years after my own mum died. I celebrated making it through the first…

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    Books

    Reading: Kale and Coffee by Kevin Gianni

    Kicking off this reading series is a book which I wasn’t searching for. It suddenly popped up as a suggestion of something I maybe, possibly, thank you, please, might like to read as I browsed Amazon for books about blogging. How the internet knew about my current OBSESSION with nomadic tales I just don’t know… Recent reads include Tracks and Wild. Apparently I must have alerted the internet powers when repeatedly searching for terms like “living in a camper van” and “hippy buses for sale” on a daily basis… But anyway I got completely sucked in by the description of the book which detailed how the author traveled across the…