I do this thing, which I have adorably (cough cough) termed as “Pinterest Therapy”, where I pin everything within the wormhole of Pinterest, which resonates with me on various issues I’m dealing with at that moment, and eventually, over time, I don’t feel the need to pin on that topic anymore. (I find this a really useful practice btw and hands down my favourite time waster!)
Who is INFJ? Is this the new Atticus, anonymous poet of the interwebs? I pinned it to one side and, thanks to the beauty of internet algorithms, suddenly all these other INFJ images kept floating about my feed and each and every one of them resonated with me.
Curious as ever, I came to discover via the knowledge fountain that is Google, INFJ is not, as I had previously suspected, an anonymous poet, living in abject poverty, with her windows covered in floral sheets purchased at a flea market, but, in fact, a personality type, part of the Myers Briggs Type Indicator. Oh, how my imagination had failed me… Katharine and Isobel, a mother and daughter team, built this self-questionnaire based on the psychological theories of Carl Jung. The idea is that our personalities are made up of preferences and these preferences influence how we experience the world. The test looks at 4 areas of our selves:
- How we gain energy – Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I)
- How we gather information – Sensing (S)or Intuition (N)
- How you make decisions – Thinking (T) or Feeling (F)
- How you live your life – Judging (J) or Perceiving (P)
Turns out I (or Pinterest… which ever way you want to look at it!) was right, I’m an INFJ.
But why should you be interested in your type?
Understand your strengths and weaknesses
The Myers Briggs Types are based on preferences, meaning when you understand your strengths you can get to work developing your weaknesses. Some of these things may not come naturally to you, but when you know where you need to work a little harder suddenly you are able to improve your skills across all areas. For example, as an INFJ I’m prone to burn out really easily, so I’m learning to balance my life better by not taking on extra responsibilities, which is hard because on the other hand I also want to help everyone.
Get cool with who you are
I put pressure on myself because I was one way around people and another way at home. I felt like I was a walking contradiction! Why couldn’t I be my authentic self? Well, INFJs are known for this “walking contradiction”. They are the extroverted introverts of our world. Realising this gave me the opportunity to relax into myself. Knowing how you recharge is, I think, so important because if you’re trying to force yourself into being something that doesn’t come naturally to you, you’re not going to be at ease with yourself or in your life.
Find a better-suited career
Do you ever feel like you hate your job? Is it draining? Maybe it’s because it’s at odds with who you are… Just something to think about.
Understand other people better.
Have you ever thought that someone was trying their best to annoy you on purpose? They might very well have been doing all they could to drive you up the wall, but the likelihood is that they are experiencing the world from a different angle.
I’m interested to know what your type is! Hit the link in the Blog Notes below and leave me a comment, drop me a text (if you have my number ;P), DM me on Instagram… Seriously, I want to know.